I connect with so much of this! At my former job there were 2 people I felt a strong connection to, and thought we were friends, but after they both left (at the same time, to go to the same company) I barely saw them, and when I did see them at events I felt I had no place in their lives. One stopped responding to texts, even though nothing "bad" happened between us.
I've always referred to myself as a "fringe dweller" because ever since high school I've always felt that I existed on the fringes of so many groups and friend circles, never quite sure how to move closer in. Social media makes it more apparent, when I see people I know doing activities with other people I know and I wonder why I'm never asked to join. I figure it's because I'm too weird or awkward (and now too sober) and so I don't even think to ask any of those people if they want to do anything with me. I always think that as a 50-something adult I should have already figured out how friendship works, and so I resign myself to realizing this is a skill I'll never learn.
I connect with so much of this! At my former job there were 2 people I felt a strong connection to, and thought we were friends, but after they both left (at the same time, to go to the same company) I barely saw them, and when I did see them at events I felt I had no place in their lives. One stopped responding to texts, even though nothing "bad" happened between us.
I've always referred to myself as a "fringe dweller" because ever since high school I've always felt that I existed on the fringes of so many groups and friend circles, never quite sure how to move closer in. Social media makes it more apparent, when I see people I know doing activities with other people I know and I wonder why I'm never asked to join. I figure it's because I'm too weird or awkward (and now too sober) and so I don't even think to ask any of those people if they want to do anything with me. I always think that as a 50-something adult I should have already figured out how friendship works, and so I resign myself to realizing this is a skill I'll never learn.